Untamed by Glennon Doyle
I have been really surprised with how much I have related to this book just about 20% of the way into it. Glennon has lived an interesting life to say the least, but her most interesting wisdom are in the moments she searched for ways to pick up the pieces. I can really relate to that.
If you're a dude, and you're turned off by the female forward advertising thinking this may not be "for you" I recommend suspending those doubts and giving the book a try.
Here's one of my favorite passages so far:
What I thought would kill me, didn’t. Every time I said to myself: I can’t take this anymore - I was wrong. The truth was that I could and did take it all - and I kept surviving. Surviving again and again made less afraid of myself, of other people, of life. I learned that I’d never be free from pain but I could be free from the fear of pain and that was enough.
Interestingly enough, I walked away from reading this passage and saw just how my fear of pain stopped so many things that could bring me joy. It's a good one y'all. Link from Glennon's site below, or pick it up from the digital public library as I did.
Dance 4 Me by Nsikak David, Show Dem Camp & The Cavemen.
I love the vibe of this song. It's a taste of afrobeats for some summer in your chilly holiday. In fact, I'm listening to it as I finish this blog post and it's the perfect compliment to the crisp, sunny day.
I love making playlists, but it's really challenging for me to sit down create a whole list in a single sitting. Among the many things I've been learning over the past five years getting to know myself better is listening to what is right for me and not trying to do something to way I think it "should be done".
So I thought to myself, how can I make a playlist that is truly reflective of my intentions going into making it?
Enter probably one of my finest playlists to date.
This playlist was created over the past few months, September up till now, with songs that have felt like fall to me. The emotions, events, struggles, failures...all of those things go into the song choice. As far as playlists go, this is one of the truest reflections of the world through my eyes and ears.
It feels nice, reflecting on the work I did. Listening to the story that was woven moment by moment I am struck by it's relative to life. it's reflection of how my attitude towards living has shifted. Instead of focusing on being seven steps ahead I have found a way to calm my spirit down so I can be here in the moment.
I think of so many times in the past I was told that I was "somewhere else" or I "wasn't here" with this person or that, and I realize that I had no idea because I didn't even know what being in the moment meant. I had spent so long anticipating the needs of others, those I both loved and hated, that what was happening in the moment couldn't even be seen.
The theme song for the 90s show Step by Step came to mind just now and it's lyrics are a nice summary of what I'm feeling in the moment:
"Step by step, day by day
A fresh start over, a different hand to play
The deeper we fall, the stronger we stay
We'll be better, the second time around"
Updated: Nov 8, 2020
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